2nd Article on Compulsions in Mental Health: (Chapter No.02)

 (2^nd )Article on Compulsions in Mental Health: (Chapter No.02)

This book costs 16 in America. I think cheaper on the Net, 22 in Canada. There's nothing like everything that helped me recover is explained in the book.  It's not like these concepts we have to see them as they're really inaccessible and behind. I have to go spend thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars to learn about this stuff. You can learn about this stuff now. Don't get stuck on that, I just see wonders in mentioning and i'll just, I'll throw it up there really quickly asking like, what is derp and so it's just short form.

For de-realization and depersonalization and you might also see it as Dr. and it's just a set really. It's useful to see it's an outcome of a set of compulsions. So, if we're doing a bunch of checking and controlling compulsions, it's very natural that we start to question. Whether we're real whether the world is real. We'll actually look at an example later tonight around how we go from normal compulsions to struggling with something like derp, where we're questioning. You know our existence and the reality of ourselves and everything around us. Let's dive in and of course, you can get it on audible so then you can just listen to it let's dive into coping. I love to start off with coping because so often in the mental health world coping is presented as a good thing and you can even see right now. When we're going through the pandemic,c you'll see tons of articles on how to cope with it. All the stuff going on so and I think it's important to say here yet, it's with any of this stuff it's not about it being good or bad. It's just recognizing that there are very natural consequences to it so but absolutely there can be stressful really difficult times in our lives where we may do any of these compulsions because it's going to help us get through something.

When it becomes a consistent practise that starts to create a lot of challenges but even when we do it temporarily we are doing it. I find it really important to recognize, we are doing it recognizing that, it's going to also create a challenge down the road but what we're saying at that moment is and I think this is the important thing is just recognizing if we choose to do some coping at this moment to get relief from something recognizing. But I am choosing then to struggle with something else later and that may be a choice, we need to make at that moment but coping. let's explore it so stop coping this is on page 84. It's not difficult to prepare a dog to poop on your couch. Give it a treat any time it pees on the sofa, or better yet, take it for a run just when it pees on the sofa. You don't like it when your puffy pee is all over the place. Is that stressful for you? So don't do stuff it loves before it does things you don't want, because cookies are delicious and puppies are bad at setting boundaries for tasty things. So, even though it doesn't need a treat, the puppy will pee on the sofa because it loves having them long after it's full, so it'll keep peeing on the sofa. It might even pretend to pee on the sofa when there isn't anything to pee on. Puppies can seem, so clever when they want a cookie imagine, if you rewarded your brain with thing,s it likes only after it did things you dislike, that's exactly, Coping habits can help you feel good, but they also send a strong message to your brain.

If you have a thought that I don't like, I'll give you anything you like to help you get rid of it. Unhappiness and sickness become prerequisites for satisfaction and wellbeing as a result of coping. I think that right there is the key thing to look at with coping and then the switch, we really want to make is no longer being reactive. With this stuff because, when we get into a coping practice essentially, what we're saying is that, I'm going to wait until something is really terrible. I'm going to wait until I'm really struggling and suffering and then I'm going to go and do healthy things. We need to get proactive and so it's often it's not about seeing the things we do to cope as bad. It's actually recognizing that we need to do them all the time we need to do them proactively rather than setting ourselves up to always need disaster before we take care of ourselves. That's really what it's about right recognizing that you are like a garden so you don't want to wait until the leaves are shrivelling up to go. You know what maybe this garden needs water okay.

 Now I'll water it because it's dying that's, what we do every time, we cope we're just waiting until things are in terrible shape and then we fix them. We need to get proactive and preventive with that stuff okay so that's coping the next one up is checking okay so stop checking is step number nine stop checking compulsively checking was a major part of my struggle with mental illness. (Continued--)